Acorns From Oakes

Seeing With Our Father's Eyes

It’s Gonna Be Alright

Far too often in my life, for fear of saying something unappreciated or stupid or even hurtful, I said nothing at all. I let opportunities pass. I saw folks hurting or about to make, what I was just sure would be, a dangerous decision and I said nothing…nothing at all. I know now, that whatever my reasons were at such times, I was not moved by love. Love throws itself into the fray. Love takes the risks. Love leaves the mouth no choice but to speak its heart’s concerns.

One of my fears was that I would give such shallow advice that the suffering one would look me full in the face and say, “You don’t have a clue what you are talking about! You need to just  be quiet and walk away.” I mean, something like that almost happened to Jesus Himself. Remember when He told Martha, “Your brother will live again.” And you can almost hear her tone…”Yes…yes…Lord, I know that one day there will be a resurrection.” It’s as if she were almost a bit irritated with Jesus…”I know there’s coming a day, Jesus, but that doesn’t help me too much right now. I would much rather talk about why You didn’t come when we first sent for You.” Now if that could happen to Jesus, what are my chances?

But I have seen something that amazes me. I have heard a person tell another something that I thought was so very shallow in the face of their trial. Yet the listener was blessed and was very appreciative. I have watched as one walked up to a new widow, put her arm around her shoulders and tell her amidst her tears, “There, there now, dear. It’s gonna be alright. It’s gonna be alright.” I waited for the explosion. “Alright! Alright??!! I have just lost my dear husband of fifty years, and you tell me it’s going to be alright? Nothing is alright! Nothing will ever be alright again!” But the explosion didn’t come. Instead, comfort passed between them. Hearts had touched. Help was offered and received. And I realized that it’s about more than the words you say. It’s that you came, when they knew you would. It’s that you would be there for them, without them having to ask. It’s that they knew their prayers would mingle with yours in Heaven’s Throne Room. They had no doubt where your heart was. Those facts trump faltering words. Whatever the failures of love, you will not find desertion among them…or apathy.

And after all, for the Lord’s beloved it really is going to be alright, isn’t it? It’s going to be so much better than alright! Not a bad word of comfort for a heart under pressure, especially when truly spoken. Beloved, it’s gonna be alright!

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3 thoughts on “It’s Gonna Be Alright

  1. Wow … I like this one Doug. Love can’t just sit still no matter what! I had people that tried to help me … comfort me … but I ignored them because my insides wouldn’t allow me to be touched by their love. At the time I kind-of let myself believe that they were just getting in my business … I didn’t see the love that wouldn’t let them stand by and watch me fall off a cliff. Thanks for opening my eyes to that thought.

    I too have been silent when I just didn’t know what to say. I’ve even asked others that are so helpful to hurting people, “What do you say in those tough situations?” I’ve been told three very helpful things. First, like you said, just show them your heart and the words aren’t really the issue. Second, ask, “Are you okay?” and then let their heart speak while mine listens. Third, just love them like Jesus.

    Thanks for reminding me that “it’s going to be alright”. Some days it’s hard to see that it will ever be alright again … but hopefully now I can hear Jesus whisper sweetly in my ear, “Beloved, it’s gonna be alright!”

    YES, PAIGE,
    ONE OF THESE DAYS I’LL BE DONE DISAPPOINTING HIM AND ALL THE PRECIOUS PEOPLE HE HAS PLACED IN MY LIFE…ONE OF THESE DAYS I WILL NEVER AGAIN FOCUS ON MY FAILURES…ONE OF THESE DAYS HEAVEN WILL HAVE HEALED ALL OF EARTH’S SORROWS…ONE OF THESE DAYS PAINFUL, HORRIBLE, HAUNTING MEMORIES WILL BE FORGOTTEN FOREVER…ONE OF THESE DAYS THAT BOLD SONG WILL BE TRUE OF ME (EVEN ME), “NONE OF SELF AND ALL OF THEE”…ONE OF THESE DAYS I’LL TAKE NO NOTICE ABOUT WHICH HUMAN GETS GLORY, I’LL REALLY WANT IT TO BE ALL FOR HIM…ONE OF THESE DAYS I WILL DREAM OF ONLY GOOD, SPEAK ONLY GOOD, DO ONLY GOOD…ONE OF THESE DAYS, TIME, DISTANCE, CAREERS, SICKNESS, EVIL, AND DEATH WILL NEVER BE ALLOWED TO SEPARATE LOVED ONES AGAIN…ONE OF THESE DAYS WE ALL WILL BE WALKING DONE THE ROAD TOGETHER WITH GREAT BIG OL’ SMILES ON OUR FACES, AND GUESS WHO WILL FALL RIGHT IN ALONGSIDE US AND BEGIN TELLING US THINGS ABOUT REDEMPTION’S STORY THAT WE DIDN’T KNOW AND COULD NEVER HAVE GUESSED…ONE OF THESE DAYS A DELIGHT WILL COME OVER US AND A SENSE OF WONDER COMPLETELY ENVELOPE US SO THAT LIFE CAN NEVER AGAIN, EVEN FOR A MOMENT BE BLASE’.
    THIS I KNOW…I’M NOT STOPPING UNTIL “ONE OF THESE DAYS” COMES.

  2. When I have been in the deepest pain, I couldn’t even really hear what people were saying…so you are right…it wasn’t the actual words they were saying. The fact that they cared enough to acknowledge my pain…with a word…or a hug…comforted my heart.

    Too many times I am afraid to say something because I think I might somehow make things worse. I obviously need to get past that. I don’t have to have all the answers to every question someone might have. All I have to know is that Jesus loves that person. And it’s enough to be like Jesus.

    How comforting to know that in Him, everything’s gonna be alright! The way you write Doug, I can almost feel His arm around my shoulder and the gentle pat of His hand.

    THAT’S WHAT I WANT, SHERRY, “to feel His arm around my shoulder.” I SPEND SO MUCH TIME WITH ME (smile) THAT I AM TEMPTED TO SEE NOTHING BUT THE GLARING FAILURES…THE THINGS I SHOULD HAVE DONE BUT DIDN’T…THE THINGS I SHOULDN’T HAVE DONE BUT DID. OR I THINK OF THE OPPORTUNITIES I BLEW. I THINK OF THE GIFTS HE’S SURELY GIVEN ME THAT I FAILED TO USE WELL. I THINK OF THOSE THINGS AND OTHER THINGS THAT CRAWL OUT OF THE DARK SLIMY HOLES WHERE THEY LIVE AND I THINK, “HOW…HOW COULD HE DELIGHT IN ME? OR CALL ME BELOVED? OR THINK OF ME AS HIS OWN.” BUT MORE AND MORE I AM GETTING MY FOCUS OFF ME AND ON HIM. THERE’S WHERE OUR HOPE IS, DON’T YOU THINK? I’M WANTING THE SWEET WILL OF GOD TO DRAW ME CLOSER ‘TIL I AM WHOLLY LOST IN HIM. AND I HOPE AND PRAY I NEVER SEE ANY VESTIGE AT ALL OF THAT UGLY PART OF ME AGAIN. ONE OF THESE DAYS…
    THANKS FOR EVERY ENCOURAGING WORD YOU WRITE, SHERRY. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOURS.

  3. Rex Boyles on said:

    Doug, my friend, I have known you for over 30 years … and the best of those years were the 3 years that we worked together. During that time I watched God bring comfort to people through you … teenagers, regretting their mistakes … young couples, struggling with their relationship … widows or widowers, grieving the loss of the love of their lives. I witnessed God work through you … but I cannot remember any particular word or phrase that you used to comfort them – but I saw it happen. You are the comfort that God sends to broken and bruised hearts. Such comfort is not about words but about heart. There is no better heart than yours when bearing the burdens for others – for imitating the compassion of Jesus for the lonesome – for accepting and forgiving people like me, letting me find rest and a time to heal. You, my friend, are part of the reason “it is going to be alright”. Rex

    YOU PAY ME FAR TOO HIGH A COMPLIMENT BY REFERRING TO OUR TOGETHER YEARS AS “THE BEST OF THOSE YEARS.” THEY WERE THE BEST FOR ME…BUT WHEN I SEE ALL THAT FATHER GOD HAS DONE THROUGH YOU IN THE PLACES HE CARRIED YOU, I CAN ONLY PRAISE HIM FOR WHAT HE’S DONE AND IS DOING WHERE YOU ARE CONCERNED. AND I REALIZED LONG AGO THAT THE PAIN I FELT WHEN OUR “TOGETHER” JOURNEY ENDED WAS FAR AND AWAY WORTH IT, THOUGH IT BROKE MY HEART. IT HAS BEEN ONE OF THE GREAT PLEASURES (A GENUINE PRIVILEGE) OF MY LIFE TO BE ABLE TO WITNESS WHAT GOD HAS DONE WITH YOU, MY BROTHER. IT HAS PROVIDED ME CONSTANT ENCOURAGEMENT, REASONS FOR PRAISE AND INSPIRATION TO KEEP TRYING. I COULD NEVER THANK HIM OR YOU ADEQUATELY FOR THAT…BUT I PLAN TO KEEP SAYING IT…MEANING IT…THANK YOU, BROTHER, FOR ALL THE GOOD YOU DO ME.

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