Acorns From Oakes

Seeing With Our Father's Eyes

There Must Be Something Wrong With Me..

…because tomorrow morning I am to fly to Tulsa to hook up with my son, Doug, Jr., in order to help him (that’s right…I said to help him) drive a U-haul truck from there to Bakersfield, CA where he and my daughter-in-law, Kelly, and my NEWEST GRANDDAUGHTER, REMI are moving to live. I’m not entirely sure how I agreed to move my granddaughter farther away from her Poppa O. Vicki has already shed a few tears over this prospect. But I’m too tough for that (sob).

Anyway…if you folks happen to remember, we wouldn’t mind a bit if you would please speak a word for us to Father God as we make this trip. I am scheduled to return to Ohio on Tuesday, December 18th. (I will miss blogging with you all.)

Now you and I both know that some good-byes are a blessing, aren’t they? Don’t you think Jacob felt that way when he left his father-in-law, Laban? But I mostly hate good-byes! I am already thinking about how I will feel when I say good-bye to my kids (and my granddaughter) at the airport in Burbank. I’m not looking forward to it. Vicki and I have been saying good-bye to our son, Doug ever since his high school graduation. I’ll never forget the sight of him in the rear-view mirror of our car as we left him in Lubbock to begin his adventures in missions, nor the mood inside our vehicle as his younger sister and brother realized how much they would miss him. We said good-bye to him again as he journeyed to Mexico City with his AIM team. We said good-bye again as he moved to Oklahoma to become a youth minister. Now we are saying good-bye again. But I am glad for the reasons for every good-bye. Behind every good-bye was a journey for God. Our son has always made his moves with a clear eye on God’s will for his life. This move is no different. Even though we have been awfully lonely at times, we have always believed that there is a better place for our beloved than near us…and that is, wherever they need to be to best serve Father God. We believe that still.

Didn’t someone once say, If we have only hoped in Christ in this life, we are of all men most pitiable? We have hope in Jesus that is good for this life and the next. There will be plenty of time for catching up on all the things we missed for a while here.

I love you folks. But my Father thinks the Cross of you! Do not despise the riches of His kindness, forbearance and patience. I know you won’t!   

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8 thoughts on “There Must Be Something Wrong With Me..

  1. Doug,

    Drive safe brother…arrive safe…come back to us…

    Yes, saying good-bye has been hard for us too. Letting Melissa go to New Zealand was a three-hankie event! I just try and remind myself of what the Apostle Paul said in II Corinthians that our journey in Him is, “sorrowful, yet rejoicing…” Such a mixture of highs and lows, ups and downs, well, you get my point.

    I know Doug Jr. and the family will do great. He had great parents!

    THANKS, BRUDDA-IN-LAW,
    WE MADE THE TRIP SAFELY, BY THE GRACE OF THE LORD. GOT THEM ALL SETTLED IN WITH KELLY’S PARENTS, BRAD AND DEBBIE LARSON. THE JOB-HUNTING HAS ALREADY BEGUN. REMI AND I STAYED IN THE SAME ROOM THE LAST NIGHT I WAS IN BAKERSFIELD. SHE IS A JOY…A DELIGHT TO MY HEART. I LEFT MY HEART IN BAKERSFIELD. BUT I KNOW WHO IT IS THAT CARES FOR OUR HEARTS WHETHER THEY ARE IN NEW ZEALAND, WEST VIRGINIA, CALIFORNIA, OKLAHOMA OR KENTUCKY. PREACH ON, BRO. I LOVE YOU. LET’S GO SEE A MOVIE ON CHRISTMAS DAY. WHICH ONE?

  2. Mom Brooks on said:

    Oh Doug, I am sitting here with tears in my eyes just thinking about you having to say goodbye to Doug Jr. in Calif. I don’t envy you one bit. I can hardly stand to think about him being so far away and us not getting to see him and his family more often. But I will be praying for you to have a safe trip and to be able to say “see you soon”. Love you, Mom Brooks

    WELL, WELL, MOMMA B,
    I HATED THE IDEA OF SAYING GOODBYE IN CA ALSO…BUT I WAS SO TIRED WHEN I LEFT THAT I DIDN’T HAVE MUCH ENERGY FOR BEING SAD. SO I’M SAD TODAY. BUT WHEN YOU REALLY THINK ABOUT IT…WORKING OUT TOGETHER TIMES WITH DOUG, KELLY AND REMI WAS JUST AS PROBLEMATICAL WITH THEM LIVING IN OK. IN FACT, WE ACTUALLY THINK, FROM A LOGISTICS STANDPOINT, IT MAY WORK OUT THAT WE WILL GET TO SEE THEM MORE THIS WAY. TRYING TO FLY INTO TULSA ALWAYS INVOLVED AT LEAST TWO LAYOVERS WITH MAYBE ONE PLANE CHANGE. FLYING TO BURBANK WILL GIVE US MORE POSSIBILITIES TO HAVE A NON-STOP FLIGHT. THOSE ARE MY FAVORITE. ANYWAY, THANKS FOR SHARING OUR HEARTS THE WAY YOU ALWAYS HAVE. LOOKING FORWARD TO CHRISTMAS EVE AT YOUR PLACE. I LOVE YOU.

  3. Not having children of my own makes it difficult for me to relate to these events. I’ve always been the child that’s moving to the new and exciting place. I may be sad, but the newness takes over and I get excited.

    I do have some empathy though … and I’m grateful for that. If it weren’t for others telling me about their experiences I would only have my perspective to go on … and that wouldn’t get me very far.

    Knowing your heart … the peeks I’ve gotten through these blogs … I know it holds family very near and dear. You are being supportive knowing this is a good thing … but that doesn’t make your heart not hurt.

    I have prayed today … and will continue to pray … that God helps your heart … that he allows you to enjoy the trip with Doug Jr. and not let it get ruined by the sadness that is coming. I’m also going to ask Him to hold you tight and let you feel His understanding … from a Father that let go to a father that is letting go … He knows your hurt … let Him carry the burden.

    PAIGE,
    YOUR PRAYERS HELPED. I CAN’T THANK YOU ENOUGH FOR SPEAKING A WORD FOR US TO FATHER GOD. THE TRIP WITH DOUG, JR. CHANGED FORMS. ORIGINALLY WE WERE GOING TO RIDE TOGETHER IN THE U-HAUL AND TOW THEIR CAR. KELLY AND BABY REMI WERE FLYING FROM OKLA CITY. WELL, AS WE LOADED THE TRUCK, IT BECAME CLEAR THERE WAS NOT ENOUGH ROOM. SO…THEY RENTED ANOTHER SMALL TRAILER WHICH I TOWED BEHIND THE TRUCK WHILE DOUG DROVE THEIR CAR. BUT WE GOT TO TALK VIA CHEAP WALKIE-TALKIES. IT WAS FINE. GOD KEPT ME ALERT THE WHOLE WAY (ABOUT 12 HOURS DRIVING ON SATURDAY AND 15 HOURS ON SUNDAY). THAT’S SOME KIND OF RECORD FOR THIS TIRED OLD MAN. AGAIN…I KNOW PRAYERS HELPED. IT WAS TOUGH LEAVING THEM THERE…BUT THEY ARE FOLLOWING THEIR DREAM FOR GOD. SO I AM GOOD WITH THAT. I LOVED THE TIME I HAD WITH REMI…GOT TO SING TO HER…WALK HER IN HER STOLLER…FEED HER…CHANGE SEVERAL DIAPERS…AND INTRODUCE HER TO THE WHIRLING JOYS OF A DESK CHAIR (SHE REALLY LIKED THAT). AS I SAID GOODBYE TO REMI, I LEANED OVER THE CRIB AND WHISPERED INTO HER EAR, “I AM YOUR POPPA OAKES…REMEMBER ME.” THEN I KISSED HER AND OFF WE WENT. I’VE BEEN DOING GOOD EVER SINCE, UNTIL I WROTE THAT LAST SENTENCE. THANKS FOR CARING PAIGE. YOU HAVE MORE THAN “SOME” EMPATHY. I’D SAY YOUR EMPATHY OPTION IS ALIVE AND WELL. AND EVEN IF YOU DON’T HAVE CHILDREN OF YOUR OWN (YET) I’M SURE YOU ARE GETTING LOTS OF PRACTICE LOVING AND CARING FOR THOSE STUDENTS OF YOURS. MERRY CHRISTMAS, PAIGE. MAY GOD BLESS YOU IN EVERY WAY, BUT ESPECIALLY IN HIS WAY, IN 2008.

  4. Doug,
    I haven’t experienced those “good-byes” with my kids yet…but they are coming and I know my heart will break…..and I imagine my heart will burst with pride…at the same time.

    May God bless you with safety on your trip….may you feel His comforting arms around you…may God give you His peace about this move for your son and his family.

    I’ll miss you in blogland….write soon!

    SHERRY,
    THANKS FOR THINKING OF US. IN MY LIFE BK (BEFORE KIDS) I HAD SOME IDEA OF GOD’S LOVE FOR ME…FOR US. I KNEW IT BECAUSE OF THE CLEAR TEACHING OF SO MANY SCRIPTURES. BUT THAT TRUTH OPENED UP FOR ME IN MARVELOUS WAYS AK (AFTER KIDS). I HAD LOVED MY WIFE WITH MY WHOLE HEART. BUT I REALIZE NOW THAT I WAS SO SELFISH IN THAT LOVE. THE ARRIVAL OF OUR CHILDREN FORCED ME TO THE MOST UNSELFISH LOVE I HAD EVER KNOWN. I MEAN, HERE WAS THIS BABY…WHO COULD DO NOTHING BUT BREATHE, EAT AND SLEEP. I LOVED HIM AND IT DIDN’T MATTER HOW HE LOOKED…HOW MANY MESSES HE MADE…HOW MUCH HE CRIED…OR WHAT HE NEEDED DAY OR NIGHT. I LOVED HIM AND WOULD HAVE AT ANY MOMENT LAID DOWN MY LIFE FOR HIM. I TRIED TO TAKE AS FULL RESPONSIBILITY AS A FATHER FOR MY SON AS MY WIFE DID AS HIS MOTHER (BUT SHE WAS SO MUCH BETTER AT IT THAN I). I NEVER KNEW MY HEART COULD HOLD SUCH STRONG FEELINGS…NEVER KNEW JOY COULD FEEL LIKE THAT…NEVER KNEW THE POWER OF FEAR (LIKE I DID WHEN OUR SON WAS LOST FROM US IN A PENNEY’S STORE FOR A FEW MINUTES)…NEVER KNEW THE COLOR OF HOPE…NEVER THOUGHT I COULD FEEL SUCH PRIDE…NEVER KNEW I COULD PRAY LIKE THAT…NEVER KNEW I COULD HURT LIKE THAT. GOD OPENED UP MY HEART AND MY WORLD AK. MY CHILDREN HAVE BEEN GOD’S GIFTS TO ME THAT HAVE GONE ON GIVING AND GIVING AND TEACHING AND TEACHING ME. NOW AND AGAIN THRU ALL THE YEARS OF THEIR GROWING UP AND IN THEIR ADULT LIVES (AND I ENJOYED ALL OF IT AND STILL AM-EVERY STAGE BROUGHT ITS UNIQUE BLESSINGS), I HAVE SAID (AS IT WERE) TO FATHER GOD, SO THAT’S WHAT YOU WERE TALKING ABOUT…SO THAT’S HOW MUCH YOU LOVE…SO THAT’S WHY YOU WERE CONCERNED…SO THIS IS THE REASON YOU CAN’T GIVE UP ON US…AND SUCH LIKE. I EXPECT THOSE WONDERFUL REVELATIONS TO KEEP ON HAPPENING THROUGHOUT MY LIFE. SO, SHERRY, WHEN YOU COME TO THE DAY OF SAYING GOODBYE TO YOUR CHILD, YOU WILL BE AMAZED AT THE ELASTICITY OF YOUR HEART. ONCE AGAIN YOU WIILL FEEL IT STRETCHING TO THE POINT THAT YOU FEAR IT WILL BE DESTROYED…BUT IT WON’T. IT’S ONLY OPENING UP TO EVEN NEWER, EVEN GREATER HEIGHTS OF UNDERSTANDING AND JOY AND LOVE. AND MAY YOU FEEL HIS COMFORTING ARMS AROUND YOU, AS YOU WISHED FOR ME (AND AS I INDEED DID FEEL) ALL THE WHILE YOU ARE PROCESSING THE JOY…THE SORROW…THE WONDER…THE MEMORIES…HOPE’S HORIZON AHEAD. FOR SOME THINGS WILL CHANGE ON THAT DAY FOREVER. AND SOMETIMES YOU WILL WANT THE OLD THINGS BACK WITH ALL YOUR HEART (AND IT’S OKAY TO FEEL THAT WAY). BUT, BY HIS GRACE, YOU WILL EMBRACE THE FUTURE, NOT ONLY BECAUSE IT IS INEVITABLE BUT BECAUSE IT IS RIGHT. AND GOD WILL GO ON BLESSING YOU IN WONDERFUL WAYS YOU HADN’T THOUGHT OF BEFORE. FOR THAT’S THE KIND OF GOD HE IS…THE KIND OF GOD WHO HAS GIVEN US OUR PRECIOUS LOVED ONES…OUR CHILDREN…BUT MORE…THE KIND OF GOD WHO HAS GIVEN US HIS OWN BELOVED…HIS ONLY BEGOTTEN…SON. MERRY CHRISTMAS, SHERRY. MAY THE NEW YEAR BRING WITH IT AN EVER INCREASING SENSE OF HIS PRESENCE WITH YOU AND HIS PLEASURE IN YOU.

  5. Rex Boyles on said:

    Doug, my beloved friend, I have made that trip – said those “good-byes” myself. To say that I understand is not to overstate it – so I just want you to know that there is someone far away in miles but right with you in spirt … as you make the drive – give those hugs – kiss that baby. I love you … Rex

    THANKS FOR SHARING IN MY ROAD TRIP, MAN. BUT THANKS, MOSTLY, FOR PUTTING YOUR STETHOSCOPE UP TO MY HEART DURING THE CALIFORNIA EVENT, AND CHECKING TO SEE IF IT WAS STILL BEATING. TO HAVE A MAN OF GOD LIKE YOU CARE FOR MY SOUL LIKE YOU DO…WELL…IT’S SOMETHING I DON’T TAKE FOR GRANTED. YOU KNOW THAT, DON’T YOU, MY BROTHER? I CAN’T WRITE ANY MORE RIGHT NOW AND KNOWING YOUR HEART AS I DO, I KNOW I DON’T NEED TO. THANKS FOR THAT TOO. IT HAS ALWAYS BEEN A JOY AND COMFORT TO ME THAT OUR FRIENDSHIP COULD ENDURE THE QUIET…THAT WE COULD BE COMFORTABLE IN EACH OTHER’S PRESENCE WITHOUT A WORD…WITH NO PRESSURE. I HAVE NEVER FELT MORE AT HOME IN ANYONE ELSE’S HEART. AND THANK YOU FOR THAT TOO.

  6. Doug,

    Thanks for your and Vicki’s love for your family and the life in Christ you modeled for your children. I appreciate what you do and your son, Doug, has been a great friend to me over the last couple of years. He has given me encouragement time and time again, and has helped me to see Jesus and his leading when I could not.

    HEY JASON,
    THANKS FOR WEIGHING IN. YOUR COMMENT IS APPRECIATED. I’M GLAD YOU AND DOUG HAVE A GREAT FRIENDSHIP. THE KIND OF FRIENDSHIP YOU DESCRIBE…THE STRENGTHENING OF EACH OTHER’S HAND IN GOD…WELL THAT’S THE BEST KIND OF ALL. GOD IS GOOD. MY LOVE TO ALL YOURS. HAPPY NEW YEAR!

  7. You are killing me, old man. Thanks for loving the way that you do. As I read these comments and your responses…I am reminded of how Christ-infused my upbringing has been…I have been rooted and established in love because of yours and momma’s examples. My daughter will grow up knowing that love and she will certainly know of the cloud of witnesses that influenced the love in our hearts towards her…inspired by parents and grandparents who fell in love with a Savior.

    Love you Padre. Thanks for everything.

    SPEAKING OF KILLING…???!!! WHO MOVED WHOM TO WHERE AND TO WHENCE? I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT I JUST WROTE. I DIDN’T MEAN TO TUG TOO HARD ON YOUR HEART, MAN. I JUST FELT SOME THINGS AND HAD TO SHARE. I KNOW WHOSE YOU ARE…WHAT YOU ARE ABOUT…AND WHAT YOU ARE AFTER. THAT’S GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME. I KNOW THAT REMI IS LOVED BY TWO OF GOD’S BEST PARENTS IN THE WHOLE WIDE WORLD. THAT IS WHAT SHE REALLY NEEDS MOST. SO I AM GLAD AT HEART…EVEN WHEN THE EMOTIONS MANIFEST THEMSELVES AT THE THOUGHT OF YOU ALL, INCLUDING REMI, BEING SO FAR AWAY. I LOVE YOU ALL. HOPE THE FINAL FOUR ESSAY QUESTIONS GOETH WELL. YOU DA SCHOLAR! IF YOU ACTUALLY GET YOUR MASTERS OF DIVINITY, DOES THAT MAKE YOU A DIVINE MASTER? I DIDN’T THINK SO. I WILL CELEBRATE WITH YOU IN FOUR MORE DAYS. AGAIN, I LOVE YOU. YOU ARE THE SON OF SONS. YOU HAVE EVER, ONLY BLESSED ME. I WILL FOREVER PRAISE GOD FOR THE GIFT OF YOU. KISS KELLY AND HUG REMI FOR ME. YOUR POP

  8. Terri King-Setz on said:

    Hello,
    I have been trying to find my dear friend Debbie Larson (maiden name is Robison from Tehachapi Calif) for several years. We lost touch, and I am looking for her address/phone number. I came across this article on a google search.
    I belive your daugheter in law, Kelly is Debbie’s daughter. I heard through mutual friends she was a grandmother now. Can you please forward me Debbie’s phone number at wizette@sbcglobal.net. Or please tell her Terri King is looking for her, and she can call me at 916-632-3742.

    Thanks much!

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